And then I had to verify where my dad was born plus ask a HUGE favor. I haven't borrowed money from my parents since I was 20 years old. That makes it an even 20 YEARS. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity so....I asked.
Let me tell you about the train wreck of a relationship my dad and I have had. It was BAD. Horrible, awful, not talking for years kind of thing. But after many years, we actually are fine now. And I do mean fine. Not great but fine.
So I asked to borrow money for my plane ticket. He needs to think about and I'm pretty sure he was going to charge me interest for this short-term loan. He can hand out money to the sibs over the years and conveniently forget that I haven't had a hand out in over 20 years. Yes I did remind him of that fact. He seems to think that I have had my share of the inheritance. Let's see... he did pay two years of my college education maybe three. Versus all the cash he has floated to my sibs. I don't think so.
This is where you know you're fine. I don't care either way. Either he gives it to me and I can go on this fabulous vacay or he doesn't. I won't hold it against him if he doesn't. Yes I know there is a different standard for me vs. the sibs. And really that's his problem - not mine. Years of counseling my friends, years of counseling.